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This means that shares may relate to any aspect of our childhood abuse histories, the Stages and Steps, or any of the issues or challenges we are confronting in our recovery. Moderators DianaJoy, danh, Bob.Moderator, motsvrai 20 1626 Fri Mar 19, 2010 12:12 pm DianaJoy Discussions of the 21 Steps   Stage 1 - Remembering (Steps 1-7) In Stage One recovery, your main task will be to acknowledge one of the reasons your life may be unsatisfying or even harmful to you--your childhood abuse. The work here focuses on remembering the details of what happened and how you felt as a child. Moderators DianaJoy, danh, Bob.Moderator, motsvrai 21 1118 Fri Mar 19, 2010 5:26 pm Emms Stage 2 - Mourning (Steps 8-14) In Stage Two recovery, the focus shifts from the details of your past abuse to the impact of the abuse on your adult life. This stage represents the intermediate point in your recovery, in which healing and change occur in tandem, each reinforcing and complementing the other. As in the fourth step of Alcoholics Anonymous, the cornerstone of Stage Two is taking an honest inventory of your current life problems and then dedicating yourself to changing the behaviors that are making your life unsatisfactory. For adult survivors, this means going beyond awareness of your self-sabotage and taking direct action to deal with it. Stage Two also requires you to delve deeper into your psyche to fac Moderators DianaJoy, danh, Bob.Moderator, motsvrai 7 174 Thu Feb 25, 2010 12:39 pm innocent Stage 3 - Healing (Steps 15-21) Stage Three can be a very exciting time as you increasingly experience the fruits of your labors and become comfortable taking control of your life. In this stage you will revisit the issue of resolving your experience of abuse by deciding whether to confront your parents/abusers. From this decision and subsequent contact, if any, with your family you will gain a revised and deeper understanding of how and why you were abused. Having this new understanding and making it part of your life will help you to heal many of your wounds to a degree that you might not have ever thought possible. As you proceed with developing new expressions of your individuality, mere survival will not be enough for you. You aspire to thrive. You may find yourself moving through this stage with optimism and anticipation. You are beginning the steps that integrate your history, your feelings, the adaptations that you have made, and the life that you want to build. Moderators DianaJoy, danh, Bob.Moderator, motsvrai 4 49 Sat Dec 26, 2009 8:24 pm Emms Topic Discussions   Validating Our Memories Some of us may have crystal clear memories of being physical, sexually or emotionally abused or neglected during our childhood and/or teenage years. Others may have only a vague sense of being abused and may question whether they were abused at all. Recalling, articulating and questioning our recollections of past abuse is all part of the validation process. Moderators DianaJoy, danh, Bob.Moderator, motsvrai 4 205 Wed Mar 17, 2010 4:35 pm Emms Telling Our Story Perhaps the single most powerful aspect concerning our recovery process, especially during Stage One recovery, is the telling of our story. Our "story" usually includes 1) the circumstances surrounding our abuse, 2) the factual details of the various incidents of abuse, (physical, sexual and/or emotional), 3) the experiences of family and elders responding and/or not responding to the abuse, 4) the effects of the abuse throughout the years, and 5) our struggles and successes with recovery. Moderators DianaJoy, danh, Bob.Moderator, motsvrai 8 534 Wed Mar 10, 2010 10:50 pm Emms Group Starters Starting a new ASCA group presents interesting challenges. This forum is a place to share ideas and ask others for advice. 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